Tuesday, 26 October 2010

If you're going to let one stupid prick ruin your life...


I am a little bit obsessed with the film Legally Blonde. I know it's not up there with the greats, but the script is silly and clever; my face pack always cracks at the one-liners, no matter how much I try not to laugh. This, for me, is the film to watch if I'm feeling a bit low or unwell. It lifts my spirits because it's absurd but also educational. There is a moral, people, to this little story. It goes something like: 'believe in yourself' and 'have faith in others'. You could even argue that Elle Woods is a feminist of sorts. : )

There are a few snippets from this film which I think can applied to life in general: Elle wants to leave law school when she learns that she's been treated in a certain way because of her sexuality. She feels a fraud. She says that she's 'fed up of trying to be someone I'm not', and her friend (lover boy to be), asks her: 'what if you're trying to be someone you are?' I love that.

My favourite bit however, hands down, has to be when Elle's female professor catches her blubbing over her male professor's behaviour and the resulting feelings of low self-worth. The female professor looks her in the eye and says 'if you're going to let one stupid prick ruin your life...you're not the girl I thought you were.' 

Aren't there times when we've given one person an awful lot of power over our existence? Maybe it was a boyfriend, the school bully, a best friend, a boss or relative. You can love or hate someone and still feel as though they are pulling the strings to your puppet. Stepping back though, and logically assessing the situation, it seems very reckless to give any one human being that much power to lower our self esteem or joie de vivre.

Tuesday, 19 October 2010

Bread-free sandwich


If you are like me and you know that your body operates better without gluten, you may, like me, crave the simple sandwich at times. I've tried gluten free breads and they're all better toasted for starters. Not very handy when you're on the go. One look at the ingredients list and you see 'modified potato starch' - not good, but sometimes you want the beauty and simplicity of eggs on buttered toast, even if the speciality bread does cost £3 a pop. 

I was overjoyed therefore to spot this idea on Star Khechara's blog - I just have to try  making this sandwich as my body is clearly objecting to 'fake foods' when I try them (I've been trying gluten free versions of bread, oats and pasta lately in a bid to eat 'normally' again). Check out Star's naturally beautiful recipes for homemade beauty products too. 

Friday, 15 October 2010

I heart hearts

I've posted before on how much I heart the Deliciously Organized blog where I found these delights...when I check the updates on there, for me it's like a bit of time out - like going to my favourite cafe and ordering a deliciously self indulgent breakfast and reading a good paper. 

Aren't these darling? This is certainly inspiration for a hand made gift, but if you want to order the real deal, click here.

Eat Pray Love

I thought I was in book heaven when I read Eat Pray Love about a year ago, so this was a film I had to go see when it came out. Whether you're in the 'love it' camp or the cynical camp, I suspect nearly everyone can get something from Elizabeth Gilbert's nuggets of wisdom that come to us beautifully in the book and, in the film, in a SATC Carrie-esque voice over. 

I found the film disappointing; the script was cheesy in a way that could have been easily prevented (I think, although to be fair I haven't produced a movie), and the characters and situations were so crammed in that every person became a charicature and every scenario a cliche. 

However, I still felt that wonderful craving to explore the world as I left the cinema, and I felt calm and philosophical. The one thing I'm taking away from it is to view every person I meet as a teacher, everything that happens as a clue. It's the most beautiful angle I'm aware of when processing the not so great things; to be humble and to keep on learning. 

Tuesday, 12 October 2010

Fake it 'til you make it


I've said this before and I'll say it again - one key to success in life is faking it til you make it. I went to university as a mature student and I remember not really knowing how to be a student again. I was out of practice on how to manage my time, how to write a brilliant essay and how to immerse myself in my subject. Things changed for me when I went on a free study skills workshop. The course leader was a lovely Del boy type. He was so non intimidating, warm and funny, that I found myself paraphrasing him as if his ideas were my own. He convinced me that the formula for success was not necessarily a super brain, but the right attitude, which after all, anyone can adopt. 

Our study skills coach told us to always look the part - to come into lectures looking smart and ready to learn; to sit at the front in seminars; to ask pertinent questions; to actively contribute to discussions; to make notes to keep ourselves stimulated and focused. He told us that lecturers are people and therefore they will respond in a human way to our levels of interest; if you show you're diligent and doing your absolute best, they'll want to invest in you and help you achieve your absolute top potential. 

I applied this formula to my studying mentality in addition to very good practical research and essay writing tips and found my grades improving literally overnight. 

I am reminded of this formula again and again in life; not just for students, but wherever you are, whether you're in a job and want to be taken more seriously, or starting your own business and in need of some self-belief. Although it's tempting to 'fess up that you're 'all in tizz, not sure what I'm doing really, all over the shop - eek' - (cue dumb blonde/brunette smile and bambi eyes), it may not be the best plan. It might seem an endearing quality to be so open and honest, but it won't always win other people's faith in you. We're not talking about how to behave with your bosom buddies here, but with people who will only know the truth that you present to them. Acting as though you know what you're doing, playing cool and confident even when you're really not and being professional and kind to others when you want to scream instead really does pay off. 

Recently I've encountered a few people who have an absolute aura of success. They don't neccessarily have better than average brains or aptitude, but what they do have is seemingly unshakeable confidence and self belief. Their manner says 'I take myself seriously, so you should too'. And it works.

If you struggle with confidence, find someone who acts in a confident way to learn from and follow their lead. Notice the way they address others, their personal style and presentation, their body language and their demeanor. Notice how they get what they want by the language they use. This isn't about being a Bitch with a capital B, but maybe a bitch with a small b.

Remember the words of Marianne Williamson (also used by Nelson Mandela, if you need any more persuading)...

“Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do.”

 

So, no more playing small. 

Monday, 11 October 2010

Sew pretty

People are starting to talk about Christmas already. And certain shops are already stocking up on Christmas cheer (or rather, crap you know you don't need). Now I don't want to depress you with more Christmas chatter, but looky here, no need to bankrupt yourself if you plan ahead now.

Handmade gifts mean so much to people, and the benefits for you? You'll get to enjoy creative time, skip the super stressful crowds and have cash to spare come the sales in January. Sounds good, right? 

Figure out now who is on your Christmas list. Write a list on paper or on some gadget or other - figure out what you'll have to buy - for example, if someone's requested a particular perfume or you really want to give them a particular book, make a note of all the material world purchases and then see where the gaps are gift-wise. 

I suggest looking in cutesy interiors stores for inspiration, then saving up materials like magazines, ribbons and so on - keep sketching your ideas down and take photos where possible. Find a book which appeals  - I thought Sew Pretty looked really good on my recent Amazon search - and pinpoint a few ideas which you can get the knack of and replicate over and over again. 

My personal favourites are making personalised oil blends and body scrubs. I also like to make pretty hand sewn ornaments. If baking sweet treats is your thing, start collecting tins and tupperware. By planning ahead now with materials, time and funding (because making things isn't always cheap and it takes some serious time to master the basics), you will be able to enjoy the process of making and giving. 

If you like to collate rather than make, it's always wonderful to receive a pretty basket full of frivolities. You can gather little somethings to fill the basket as and when you see them - chocolates, soaps, honey, candles, incense, beauty products and stationery. It's wonderful to give something with a personal touch. 


Tell me what you heart making.

Friday, 8 October 2010

I heart coconut oil

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I heart coconut oil for the fact that it does so many jobs beautifully. It's not cheap, true, but this is the good stuff. You can cook with it, use it in your hair as a mask, smother your body with it after a bath (sooo good), use it post shaving on your delicate areas, give your skin a glean with it on a hot date, you can use it as a massage base oil, a facial treatment (massage into your face and neck over night) or as a cleanser; it removes impurities and even tough-to-take-off eye make up comes off with some coconut oil, warm water and cotton wool. 

I hope you are happy and healthy. Sometimes it's the smallest decision we make that gives our lives direction and clarity.

Friday, 1 October 2010

Happy weekend

Maybe it's an age thing, but I just can't find myself getting excited over what look to me like remedial shoes in all of the shops right now. Yes they do absolutely look cute on 19 year old girls who style them appropriately, but I'm at that point where I want something traditionally cute. Maybe that makes me boring, but here's my wish list.

I heart these for smart wear...


and these for casual wear...


Are you going to rock the remedial look this A/W? Or are you sticking with classics like me?

Happy weekend - you're beautiful. xox

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